This one thing could keep your tween girl in sports

Thanks to Chris Deacon for her excellent journalism in the Sept 6 issue of Today’s Parent. Her article follows!

Studies show that girls start quitting sports in the tween years—this solution might surprise you.

Growing up, Juanita Lee ran track and rowed, but her sport of choice was tennis. She played the game from age six until age 14 when— seemingly overnight— her breasts grew from a 32A to 34DD.

The change immediately set her apart from her more petite, flat-chested opponents and made the teenager extremely self-conscious. She hated the sensation of her breasts moving when she ran on the court and how exposed she felt in her scoop-neck tennis dress whose padded cups only accentuated her size. And because breasts move independently of the body, (both up and down and side to side,) Lee also started experiencing breast pain, an issue she was too embarrassed to discuss with her parents. Not long after, Juanita used a sports injury as an excuse to quit tennis altogether and turned her attention to rowing, where breast movement wasn’t an issue, and running, a sport that—while still painful—meant she could wear baggy t-shirts for coverage.

Lee isn’t the only girl whose breast development has affected their participation in sports. In a 2016 survey of more than 2,000 British girls aged 11 to 18, nearly three-quarters said their breasts got in the way of enjoying sports. According to the study, published in the Journal of Adolescent Health, when girls hit puberty they start pulling out of athletics and skipping gym class to avoid the pain and embarrassment of breasts that are either too big, too small or —the chief complaint—too bouncy.

It turns out there could be an easy fix—a sports bra. While a given for professional female athletes, this undergarment is often omitted from the equipment list of girls’ sports teams. And while jockstraps are offered to boys for protection and to prevent discomfort caused by excessive movement during exercise, sports bras that serve the same purpose for girls have not been a part of the cultural conversation. In fact, only 10 percent of girls surveyed in the British study had worn one.

So how can a parent navigate the tricky terrain of breast development and sports with their tween? Here are five tips:

Start the conversation early: Your daughter may not need the support of a sports bra yet, but it’s worth tackling the topic early on, before she gets embarrassed about it. If she’s not ready for the discussion in the moment, MaryAnne Gucciardi—whose company, Dragonwing girlgear specializes in performance base-layers such as sports bras and support tops for girls aged 8 to 17, encourages parents to stick with it. “It’s a hard conversation for a parent,” she says, noting that dads in particular, have a hard time with the topic, “but it’s even harder for a child. They don’t know yet what they need. They just know what they’re feeling.”

Be matter of fact: Gucciardi also suggests sticking with the facts when broaching the idea of a sports bra. “You could say something like, “I want you to play your best. I want you to feel comfortable, and have good support to prevent injury and stay healthy and just like boys with a jockstrap for support and to prevent injury, this is what girls wear,’” she says. Explain to you daughter the difference between your average tween bra (which often looks like a sports bra) and the real thing. Most tween bras are made with thin cotton and flimsy straps. A good sports bra, by contrast, has smooth but stretchy fabric that moves as the athlete moves, with straps and a band that stay in place.

Shop it alone: While the odd girl might enjoy looking for a bra with her mom, most don’t, says Gucciardi, so parents should start the process. One idea, she says, is to buy a few different styles of sports bras and support tops and leave them in your daughter’s drawer—while keeping in mind she probably won’t model them for you. “She might have you hand them back and forth until she finds one that she likes,” she says, “Be patient. If you let her control the conversation, then she’ll feel in control of her body.”

Go for fit: Thirteen-year-old Melanie Paulson’s* parents have been helping her shop for sports bras since she started developing breasts in Grade 4, with little success. “I don’t find them very comfortable,” says the avid hockey player, who now shops in the women’s section. But many women’s sport bras are padded which makes breasts look bigger—the last thing most tweens and teens want. And Gucciardi cautions that an improper fit—caused by a bra that’s too big— can lead to back problems. “You could have a bigger bust but a small rib-cage,” she explains, suggesting that parents seek out sports bras that are specifically designed for tweens and teens, and that take this silhouette variation into account so that the fit is precise. Lululemon, Nike and Gucciardi’s brand all carry quality sports bras for this age group. Look for a fit that is snug but not tight with straps that don’t droop or slip. And if you’re buying online, it’s worth taking the time to measure your daughter and refer to the size chart rather than order the size that corresponds to her age. Parents should measure just under the rib cage to get the right fit as opposed to across the chest, and, when the bra is on, be able to fit not more than one finger under the band. The band should be as wide as possible while still being comfortable for your child.

Comfort is key: Gucciardi recommends quality sports bras that use high performance, moisture wicking fabric (that moves the sweat away from the skin) with mesh for coolness and breath-ability. “Girls get super embarrassed when they think they sweat and smell and that people notice it,” she says. Also look for thin, removable pads for coverage and softness. “Nipples showing is another source of embarrassment,” she says. Nipple chafing— especially common with runners— is also an issue. Finally, choose a sports bra that’s seamless and tag-free to prevent irritation.

Now that you’ve got a bra for your daughter, can you really expect it to be the difference between giving up sports and staying in the game? For Juanita Lee, now 27, the answer is—absolutely. “I was kind of a shy kid and I never felt comfortable saying, ”oh, my boobs hurt.” she says. In grade 10, Lee got her first sports bra at the suggestion of her female rugby coach, and she played rugby until the end of high school.

*Name has been changed.

The “why” of Dragonwing girlgear.

kickstart_bannerPeople often ask me why I am so passionate about sports and girls and I have a simple, important reason – we need this generation of girls, now more than ever, to reach their potential.  Sports participation at any level is one path to actualizing potential –it is established and proven – we don’t need to create a new program or study its benefits.  But social expectations and social media are getting in the way of girls.  When I realized “the underwear experience” could have an impact, I had an aha moment that I could do something about it.

Let’s take Maslow’s hierarchy of needs pyramid.  On one level of the pyramid is community or village – we all know and accept that it takes a village to grow a strong confident girl.  We are happier with friends, family, a team, a tribe.  Belonging is important.   Connections give life meaning (Brene Brown).  Sports provide a natural community.

The next level of the pyramid is self-esteem.  Sports build self-esteem in so many ways, such as setting and achieving goals, graciously winning, building resilience, pushing your comfort zone for what you think you can do and then exceeding it – just to name a few. For more on this, check out this TedEx talk by Alisa Herr.

Unfortunately, feelings about breast development are a top reason girls drop out of sports.  According to a recent study in the Journal of Adolescent Health, “three quarters of school-aged girls report breast-related concerns regarding exercise and sports.”   75%!!!  That’s just not acceptable.  Starting and normalizing conversation about body changes can improve this.  Sports programs frequently recommend protective gear for boys, like cups, or compression shorts, but there is no comparable list recommended for girls. At Dragonwing girlgear, we provide girls that list and more.

Having an excellent-fitting, high-performance sports top – whether it is a bra, cami or thermal tee-shirt, that is designed especially for the athletic girl’s figure, can eliminate worries about underwear malfunction.  Embarrassment about changing bodies can alleviate concerns about body image.  At Dragonwing, we strive to free up emotional energy– so girls can focus on their game – and everything else they want to achieve… because when girls are confident, the possibilities are endless.

 

 

 

“The Most Comfortable Bra Ever”

 

Elise’s daughter plays soccer and volleyball and is already a big fan of our Keyhole Sports Bra. But now she has a new favorite: our seamless Racer Sports Bra for girls. 

“The Racer bra was a huge hit – she said it is the most comfortable bra ever.”

"The most comfortable bra ever" customer review of Racer Sports Bra for girls, teens. Click for more.

Discover the Dragonwing Difference yourself & check out The Racer:

– Super fine yarn and double-layered coverage ensures support, comfort, and coverage.
– Wicking fabric keeps moisture away so you stay cool and confident.
– Shoulder straps provide support and don’t droop.
– Soft, snug bottom band won’t ride up no matter how far you reach, stretch, throw, or run.
– Tag free and seamless so there is no chafing
– Made in the USA.

The Best Thing a Girl Can Say About a Bra

 

Most people don’t talk much about their underwear. And if you’re a preteen or teen girl, it’s likely you really don’t want to talk about your bra, especially your first bra, with anyone.

That’s why we’re always thrilled when we hear that girls love their Dragonwing sports bras, not just because of the perfect fit but because it’s so comfortable that they aren’t even aware of it. In fact, the most frequent comment we hear is some version of “I forgot I was even wearing a bra.”

That’s what Diane P. wrote to tell us after she bought her daughter our Racer Sports Bra in black with teal trim.

“My daughter says she doesn’t even realize she has it on because it doesn’t dig or irritate her skin. She is super sensitive so that is saying something.  I will be ordering another one soon…. Thanks again.  Love the product.”

 

Review of Racer Sports Bra for Girls: My daughter says she doesn't even realize she has it on.

 

What are YOU or your daughter looking for in a bra? Please tell us in the comments.

 

Two Sports Bras isn’t Enough for Athletic Girl

 

Wendy’s teen daughter got her first Racer Sports Bra at the start of the summer — two actually – one each in black/teal and white lime! She loves them and has “been begging for some more!”

After she ordered four more Racers in early August, Wendy generously wrote a review on our website.

Great quality & comfort. They’re very soft and comfortable and the fit is great. Much better than anything you can find at a big box sporting goods store. Would love to see more colors!

 

We’re happy to announce that we’ll have several new colors of the Racer later this year. Be sure to join our email list, so you’ll be among the first to know when the new colors — and a few other new products — arrive.

 

Girls sports bra review: "daughter loves the Racer...soft, comfortable & the fit is great"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Back-to-School Tips for Active Girls

 

The start of the school year is filled with anticipation, excitement, great promise, and sometimes anxiety. What will my teachers and classes be like? Will I make new friends? Will my “old” friends still be my friends? And, when transitioning to a new school, will I fit in?

Girl with backpack and bike back to school

At Dragonwing girlgear, our mission is to empower girls in sports and in life. Building connections, feeling confident inside and out, and making routines and transitions as smooth as possible can help get the school year off to a great start! Here are our 5 back-to-school tips:

1. JOIN A TEAM OR PHYSICAL ACTIVITY, IN OR OUT OF SCHOOL. Being part of a team is a great way for girls to make friends, stay active, reduce stress, improve mental health, and develop lifelong skills – like teamwork and resilience — that are the benefits of sports participation.

2. CHOOSE CLOTHING THAT GIVES GIRLS COMFORT AND CONFIDENCE FROM THE INSIDE OUT. The start of school, particularly for girls whose bodies are changing, can be a time of hyper self-awareness. Research shows that girls are starting puberty, marked by the start of breast development, significantly earlier than 15 years ago, sometimes as young as 8 or 9 years old.

Regardless of when they first need a bra, girls want something comfortable that provides enough coverage so they don’t feel self-conscious and fits them just right, so they can move and play with confidence. Girls and parents alike want a first bra to be age-appropriate, not the padded or plunging bras of Victoria’s Secret, Target, and other retailers.

A well-fitting, comfortable sports bra, like our Keyhole and Racer sports bras, or a sports camisole with an inner layer, like our Un-Tee Sports Cami, is often the best choice.

3. MAKE THE TRANSITION FROM SCHOOL TO SPORTS EASY, QUICK, AND COMFORTABLE. The start of the school year and fall sports season means girls – and parents – need to make quick transitions from school to practice or competition.

Need to change clothes in the car or on the bus? Concerned about modesty while changing out of school clothes and into sports gear? When getting dressed in the morning, choose base layers (aka “undergarments”) — like our sports bras, camis, and light compression shorts — that are cool and comfortable under “regular” school clothes and make changing for sports quick and easy. No need to completely undress; just take off school clothes and pull on a sports jersey and shorts.

What a girl wears under her uniform can help her feel confident and play her best. Undergarments that are comfortable, fit great, and provide appropriate coverage empower girls to play the sports they love without being distracted by droopy straps, bras or shirts that ride up, or bunching shorts.

4. PLAN AHEAD FOR COOLER WEATHER. While it may be hot and humid now, the arrival of cool, fall weather always seems to surprise us. Afternoon practices and games – or the trip to and from school — can quickly turn chilly or downright cold.

A pair of leggings and a long-sleeve top under sports gear can keep a girl athlete warm, agile, and in the game. Moisture-wicking fabric is a must, so the sweat moves away from the skin and girls stay dry and warm. When shopping, consider the sport as well as the fit. Many soccer girls love our Capri-length Chill Weight Leggings because they don’t interfere with shin guards.

5. THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS A GIRL NEEDS ON HER FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL WON’T FIT INTO HER BACKPACK OR GYM BAG. She carries these treasures inside herself: a spirit of adventure and curiosity, a desire to learn and tackle new challenges, and a sense of confidence in herself.

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A slightly revised version of this post originally appeared on the Sports Mom Survival Guide, a great resource for parents of young athletes with tips, ideas, and recipes. 

 

Girl’s Keyhole Bra = Comfort, Confidence

review Dragonwing sports bra: fashionable comfort for young girlWe know that girls of all ages come in all shapes and sizes. And we know that girls love to play, whether on the playground or on a competitive playing field. Sadly and far too often, girls drop out of sports and start becoming less active when their bodies start to develop.

In a recent review of our Keyhole Sports Bra, blogger Chloe M. recounted her young daughter’s experience:

My little 8-year-old loves her sports… however, her weight, size, and now developing body was making it hard for her to be comfortable when she played.
The Keyhole Sports Bra changed everything and provided her with fashionable comfort for everyday use.

 

The first day she wore the new bra she said she felt like she was years younger again. No discomfort.

 

Her friends in the locker room even commented on how cute it looked and asked where to get one.

 

We LOVE hearing how Dragonwing girlgear boosts girls’ confidence, empowering them to be the strong, active, fun-loving kids they are! Read Chloe’s full review on her blog, Reviews by Clo.

Tell us how Dragonwing has made a difference for YOU and we may feature you in an upcoming blog post.

 

Tween Confidence-Boosting Sports Bra

You’ve heard me  say that our mission is to empower girls to play — and be — their best, with freedom and without distraction.

The notion of girls being able to move freely without being self-conscious or distracted by their clothing is simple and yet oh-so-powerful.

Robyn, mother of soccer-playing girls ages 8 and 11, wrote to share her — and her older daughter’s — delight with our Keyhole Sports Bra. Her daughter didn’t like the tight fit of other sports bras, especially under her arms. They selected the Keyhole because its design allows for more arm movement, the fit is snug, not tight, and the fabric is super soft and stretchy.

A winning combination, as Robyn wrote:

Sports Bra so comfortable tween forgot she had it on., Mom review

 

Before ordering, Robyn checked our size chart and double-checked her selection with us, just to be sure she’d get the right fit. And she did!

We offer free shipping on every order, including for returns and exchanges, to ensure that girls get the right size and perfect fit.

 

 

 

 

Tween, Mom Agree on Dragonwing

Mom & Tween Girl Sports Bra ReviewWho says that Moms and tween daughters don’t agree when it comes to undergarments, in particular bras and sports bras?!

Becky and her daughter were so pleased with the fit and performance of  the Dragonwing Mesh Racer sports bra  that she wrote an online review, entitled  “Good fit, soft material. Go by the Measurements on the Size Chart — It works!”

 

She’d been wearing another brand loyally, and since she’s grown taller, she needed more length in the straps. For the past several months, she’s been embarrassed by the resulting push-up effect and annoyed by the constant ride-up. She’s tried on multiple brands and models, even women’s xxs sizes for the length, but ran into the same problems everywhere: Too much bra and not enough strap. The sizes that fit her height were clearly made for larger-chested girls.

 

The Dragonwing sports bra offers more length and coverage without excess fabric. It truly seems proportioned for a more athletic but developing girl’s body. Also, the material on this bra is soft cotton, and both the band and straps are wider than other bras she’s tried. She finds that more comfortable, and I like that wider bands and straps offer better support for developing bodies.

 

We love hearing detailed feedback about our performance  athletic wear for girls. We’re 100% committed to girls getting the perfect fit and use feedback in our design and development of new products.

 

 

Sports Bra May Be Girl’s Best “First Bra”

Research shows that girls are entering puberty, marked by breast development, significantly earlier than 15 years ago. Today, more than 20% of girls in third grade have started to develop breasts, and many begin as young as age 7 or 8. Of course, many other girls don’t begin until they become teenagers.

Regardless of when they first need a bra, girls want something comfortable that provides enough coverage so they don’t feel self-conscious and allows them to move with confidence. Girls and parents alike want a first bra to be age-appropriate, not the padded or plunging bras of Victoria’s Secret or many other teen retailers.

Un-Tee cami sports top (camisole with inner shelf bra) in 7 colors

A well-fitting, comfortable sports bra, like our Racer or Keyhole, or a sports camisole with a shelf bra, (like our Un-Tee sports cami, above) is often the best choice for a girl’s first bra for several reasons:

– With no clasps or cups, a sports bra doesn’t shout “bra” and provides a smooth silhouette under clothing – at school and on the playing field.

– A sports bra is easy to wear, with nothing to clip or adjust. She can put it on and take it off all by herself. A sports bra or cami under school clothes also makes the transition from school to sports practice quick and easy.

Keyhole sports bra for tween, teen, girl

Sports bras are made for activity and all girls are active, whether they’re climbing or jumping at recess, running for the bus, or playing soccer, hockey, basketball, or any other sport.

The highest compliment we get from our tween customers is when they tell us that our sports bras are so comfortable that they don’t even know they’re wearing one. That means they’re focusing on doing the things they love, living their lives free and with confidence! Who could wish for anything more for a girl?

Key things to look for in buying a sports bra for your tween:

Fit that’s snug but not tight. The bra should move when she moves but shouldn’t ride up whether she raises her hand in class, throws a ball, or runs around a gym. The straps should be secure and shouldn’t droop or slip. Measure before buying and check the size chart to be sure you’re ordering the right size for your girl.

Soft, smooth fabric that wicks moisture away from her skin, keeping her cool, comfortable, and chafe-free on – and off – the playing field. Look for a sports bras that’s seamless and tag-free so there’s no irritation.

Coverage without bulky padding. Padding isn’t needed or wanted by most young girls and pre-teens. Look for a sports bra or cami with double-layered fabric that provides a measure of modesty for girls whose breasts are starting to develop. As girls develop further, support becomes more important – especially for athletes.

When your tween is ready for a traditional bra, it’s best to shop at a store that provides individual attention and offers a variety of age-appropriate options. “Trying on your first bra in a big discount retail store can be unnerving for an 8- or 9-year-old who may already feel shy about the experience,” notes Kelly O’Brien, owner of LingerTween in New Jersey, who carries a wide variety of traditional and sports bras for tweens.

A slightly revised version of this post originally appeared on Tweenhood.ca, a great online site for parents of tweens.